How To Cast a Honey Jar Love Spell (And Why You Shouldn’t)

If there’s one kind of love spell I get asked about more than any other, it’s the honey jar spell. I kid you not, there is not a day goes by without someone sending me an email or message about these kinds of spells.

It’s hardly surprising. This genre of ‘bottle spell’ is on-trend right now. Lots of mainstream publications are claiming that it’s the solution to all manner of relationship problems. There are even honey jar love spells available on Fiverr. According to popular belief, a honey jar spell can be used in all these ways (and more):

  • As a spell for unrequited love
  • A spell to break up a relationship
  • To make an existing lover propose marriage
  • As a spell to bring an end to domestic abuse
  • A friendship spell
  • A way to get back an ex-boyfriend or ex-girlfriend
  • The solution to put the passion back into a marriage
  • To find a soulmate

There are even those who claim that the humble honey jar can be used to find a job, get a pay raise, and to stop people gossiping. In fact, if you search for long enough, there are probably people saying anything in the world can be changed with this sort of magic.

There’s just one problem with all these wild and amazing claims: they are completely wrong.

Honey jar spells don’t work. Sorry to be the bearer of bad news, but it’s true. Every single day I am contacted by people who tell me they have cast one and can’t understand why they haven’t seen results. And every day I have to tell them the same thing. They will never see results with such a spell because they are a myth — a legend that has somehow taken on a certain level of mystique and become widely accepted.

They are no more real than Bigfoot or the Loch Ness monster. Sure, some will say I’m wrong, that these spells work wonders. They are the same sort of people who claim that the Earth is flat despite the fact that anyone can prove otherwise beyond doubt in about two minutes.

What Are Honey Jar Spells?

Before we look at why these spells don’t work, first a quick history lesson is in order so that we are all on the same page about what they are and where they came from.

The honey jar spell is a kind of sweetening spell. The idea is simple: by using literally sweet ingredients like sugar, honey, or molasses, we aim to sweeten someone towards us. That could be in a friendly way such as making a new friend, finding favor with the boss at work, or becoming the teacher’s pet. It could be as a way of stopping someone from being mean to us, like stopping them talking ill of us or being nasty behind our back. It could even be as a way of bringing an end to physical or emotional abuse, which is most likely to be the origin of this kind of ‘magic’ (which I put in quotes because as we will see, there’s nothing remotely magical about the process).

Sweetening spells come from folk magic, more specifically hoodoo magic. Hoodoo is an African American tradition that was brought to the United States by African slaves. Hence we can trace its origins back even further to ancient African magic traditions like witchcraft and obeah.

As is so often the case with imported traditions, the basis for sweetening spells has become all but lost to the mists of time and the current form bears little resemblance to what the original African witchdoctors would recognize.

A common trait of honey jar spells is that they are worked in closed containers. Some people call them bottle spells because they use bottles rather than jars, but the principle is exactly the same.

The Procedure

To best understand the kind of nonsense these spells are, we’ll look at how one is typically ‘cast’. To start with, there is a list of ingredients or supplies:

  • A honey jar, jam jar, bottle, or another container that can be sealed. It is often recommended that the container be made of glass.
  • Sweetener. This could be sugar, honey, syrup (maple syrup, corn syrup, or any other kind), jam, jelly, molasses, etc. Most directions specify that a natural sweetener is used.
  • Paper and a pen or pencil. The people who are really into this will state that parchment works best.
  • A candle.
  • Optionally: bodily fluids or hair from the person we are casting on. Failing that, some personal object that connects to them, like an intimate item of clothing.

Of all of these ingredients, it’s actually the last, optional, ones that have any founding in reality. And yet these are the ones that are left out of most instructions for this sort of work.

I’ll talk about why personal artifacts are useful later. First, here’s the usual procedure for casting, according to popular belief.

Casting The Honey Jar Spell

Firstly, you are supposed to write down the name of the person you are casting on (or the person you are ‘sweetening’), on the paper or parchment. Their name is to be written three times. Three is a number that recurs often in this kind of myth; it’s a number that is associated with magical power, despite there being zero evidence to this effect.

Then you write your own name three times. Some variations suggest the names should cross each other.

The final step with the paper is to write your wish — the outcome you are hoping to achieve, such as making the person fall in love with you (the most common), or making them be nice to you, stop hitting you, or whatever the ‘sweet’ result is.

You may be asked to do this in some bizarre way like writing the words in a circle around the names, or in the form of a cross or square, or writing the wish in a single stroke without lifting the pen or pencil from the paper.

Hiding The Truth With Mysticism

I’ll step aside here to mention that putting in odd instructions like that is a common way of disguising the ridiculousness of these rituals. The more intricate, difficult, or downright bizarre they can be made, the more we tend to believe in them. Saying ‘write down your name, the name of the person you’re targeting, and what you want from them,’ doesn’t sound anywhere near as magical as saying ‘write down your name three times, cross it with the name of the person you are sweetening three times, then encircle the form with your wish in a single stroke without lifting the pen’. The more odd instructions you see in a ritual, the more you can be sure it is complete nonsense.

Back To The Spell

Now you have your paper or parchment with the outcome you’re seeking somehow inscribed upon it, you’re asked to fold it up and embed it in the sweetener in the jar, making sure to get your fingers nice and sticky. In other words, you are meant to ruin a perfectly good pot of honey by burying some paper inside it.

If the optional personal effect such as bodily fluid or hair from the target of the spell is in play, then that is added to the mixture. If the artifact is large, like an item of clothing, then instructions will generally suggest cutting a small piece off to put in the jar.

At this point, there’s usually some form of incantation. It will make reference to the sweetness of the honey and liken it to how you want the outcome to be equally sugary. One example someone told me about recently included the following chant:

This honey is sweet and it represents the sweetness that Jason will feel for me.

Jason was the name of the person she was casting the spell on, the boy she wanted to fall in love with her. I’ll tell you how that turned out later. First we have to get through this casting procedure.

Now you are supposed to lick the honey from your fingers (it’s unclear whether this is intended to hold any power or is just a practical step). Then the candle comes into play. The color of the wax is cited as being crucial. Red candles bring about passion (useful for spells to enliven or rekindle an existing relationship), pink ones are meant to generate deep love, brown or black are for influencing people who hold power over you (a teacher, parent, boss, etc), and white is for any other case. The candle is lit and put on top of the jar.

The caster now has to be patient as they have to wait for the candle to burn all the way through. When the candle goes out, the jar is to be stored in a safe place.

After Casting

As with everything in these sorts of instructions, there are variations in what should happen next. Some say the jar should be buried and never disturbed. Others say a new candle should be burnt upon it — daily, every three days (of course, it’s that number again), or every week — the interval is up for debate.

Some people suggest the same jar can be re-used later for spells seeking a new outcome, others say it should never be touched again. The fact nobody can agree on this (or indeed on any part of the procedure) should be a clear sign of how none of this stuff works.

A Grain of Truth

If we dig into any myth deeply enough, we can often find a grain of truth at their heart. For example, most people would agree that mermaids are a myth, not something that’s real. I’ve never seen one in a zoo and don’t know anyone who has. The original mermaid myth is thought to have originated with sailors who saw manatees or dugongs from a distance. With enough rum inside them, a bit of sea spray to cloud their vision, and a yearning from not having seen any females for months on end, it’s easy to see why such sightings could be misinterpreted as sirens or mermaids.

And so it is with sweetener spells. At their heart there is a small grain of truth. But it’s not to be found in the honey or sugar, or indeed in the jar. The single thread of reality comes from the optional ingredient — the one that many popular instructions leave out altogether. It’s the bodily fluids or hair. It’s the ingredient that’s probably the hardest to obtain.

If you’ve read my article about morphic fields in love spells, you’ll know that real magic of the kind I practice is founded on solid scientific principles. I manipulate subatomic energy. This energy harnesses a natural and very strange phenomenon called quantum entanglement. This states that pairs of particles are connected, or entangled, and therefore that one particle can affect another regardless of where they are located. Albert Einstein called this “spooky action at a distance”.

Quantum entanglement is the reason the bodily fluid or hair in a honey jar spell can actually be useful. Because it was once part of the person the spell is being cast on, the sub-atomic particles within are entangled with other particles still in that person. Actions taken on the object can directly affect the person the object came from. In other words it is possible to use bodily fluids or hair as a way to connect to the person you want to cast a spell on.

So if there’s a scientific basis for these spells, why don’t they work?

Not That Simple

Because it’s just not that simple. And that’s obvious if we think about it for a minute. Purveyors of honey jar spells are asking us to believe that we can affect a person by putting their name, and at best some of their hair, saliva, or semen, into a pot of honey.

If that was the case, just imagine the chaos that could be caused by the world’s hairdressers! All that hair that gets cut and lands on the floor gets swept up and put in the trash. The trash gets taken away in a lorry, and either buried or incinerated. Yet I don’t see anyone suffering burning sensations a few days after getting their hair done. I’ve not seen anyone feeling like they’ve been buried alive after getting a short back and sides.

Quantum entanglement might mean particles are linked, that people still have a connection to the hair that’s been cut off, but there’s a lot more to casting a real love spell than that. Just dropping a name and some hair into something sweet and hoping for the best isn’t going to cut it. It’s not going to make someone fall in love with you any more than cutting their fingernails and flushing the clippings down the toilet is going to make them feel like they’re drowning. But that’s what we are supposed to believe when we do a honey jar love spell.

Why Honey Jar Spells Are Bad

You’ve probably noticed by now that I don’t like these so-called spells, and you may be wondering why. There’s a simple reason: they give people false hope.

Remember earlier I talked about someone who had cast one and told me about the incantation she had to recite? We’ll call her Debbie (not her real name, as always I’ve changed it to protect her identity and respect her privacy). Debbie agreed to let me share her story here.

Debbie’s case was very typical of the kind I see every week. I’ll let her tell you about it:

“I was in love with this guy from college. It was like in the movies — he was the most popular guy and I was the school dork. He dated all the best looking girls, the prom queens, the cheerleaders, but never anyone like me. I’d like to think I was above being attracted to that sort of person, but he was hot. There was more to him than that. He was smart too, but he tried to hide it because I guess he thought it was bad for his image. But I knew, because our moms knew each other and I got to see him outside of school sometimes.”

That’s how Debbie fell for the boy — we’ll call him Jason. With their moms being friendly they saw each other on the weekend sometimes.

“He was completely different those times, and I thought he liked me, but obviously not enough.”

Debbie didn’t dare ask Jason out for fear of how he’d laugh at her. But she had fallen for him and desperately wanted him.

Debbie’s Spell

“That’s why I cast the honey jar love spell,” she says. “I spent a whole weekend researching. It was confusing, I should have just done the first one I found. It wouldn’t have worked, but at least I’d have saved myself some time!”

The reason for Debbie’s confusion? “There were so many spells, and they were all different. By the end of the weekend I was like, should I use honey or sugar? A jar or a bottle? What exactly am I supposed to write on the paper, and is it even supposed to be paper or am I supposed to find parchment from somewhere? What about the candle? Pink or red? There were different instructions, nobody could agree. I didn’t just want passion, I didn’t want Jason to screw me and dump me, I wanted him to fall in love with me! In the end I picked one spell and cast it.”

The confusion didn’t abate after the spell either. “God, no. After that I went to college and got my hopes up that Jason would be a changed man. Something had changed, but not the way I wanted. He was walking around with a new cheerleader on his arm. I was like, okay, it needs time to work, and I might have to do it again. And that was just more confusing because some people said you had to bury the jar and others said you had to do the spell again every day and oh my God it was a nightmare.”

Eventually she compromised and cast the spell once a week. But Jason paid her no more attention than before, and Debbie was fast becoming disillusioned with the whole thing.

“I didn’t want to give up on him, but I was coming to the conclusion I was wasting my time. I did more research, and that’s when I found your website. When I saw you were offering to cast love spells for free I was like, okay, maybe this guy knows how to do them properly. I figured you’d do a honey jar spell, but properly.”

When she got in touch, Debbie told me about the spell she had tried herself. “You told me these honey jar spells don’t work, and I didn’t know what to think then. I was so tired of the whole thing I just let it go. Anyway, you cast your real spell and that made Jason fall in love with me, so then I was like, okay, this guy really does know what the heck he’s talking about!”

A Better Way

Debbie feels she was let down by the websites and magazines that peddled the fabled honey jar system.

“For sure,” she says. “Some of the magazines I read were really popular. I was like, why are they writing this stuff when they must know it doesn’t work? Then in my media studies class, it hit me: they want the ad dollars. They had to fill their pages with something, and they new that relationship advice was a hot topic, and an ‘evergreen topic’ as our media studies teacher says. The editors didn’t care about the effect those articles would have on people like me. Heck, I doubt they even thought about it for a second. They were just like, okay honey jar spells — gimme two thousand words and we can sell a full-page ad for honey next to that!”

The sad thing is that all this false hope is so unnecessary. Real love spells exist and are well-proven. They don’t need sweeteners or jars or any of that paraphernalia. The only downside is that they aren’t easy to cast and are best done by an experienced professional. Without wishing to ring my own bell, I have more than forty years of experience in the art, and my spells are completely free of charge.

“I wish I’d found your site earlier,” Debbie concludes. “It would have saved me time, but more importantly it would have saved me from getting my hopes up only do be disappointed day after day. Now I know the truth. I only hope that other people who are looking into honey jar spells aren’t drawn in.”

Debbie and Jason have been dating for four months. She says he was hesitant about their relationship at first, but his love for her was stronger than his concerns that dating a ‘dork’ (her words) would damage his cool-guy image. I’m delighted to say they’re both very happy.

Looking For A Real Spell?

If you came here to find out how to do a honey jar love spell, hopefully by now you’ve seen why they would be a waste of time. What’s more, there’s really no need. If you would like me to take a look at your situation and possibly cast a real love spell for you, I now work free of charge. You can find out more about my free love spell casting service here. If you’d rather go elsewhere, that’s fine too. Just please steer clear of honey jar spells — you’re only likely to be disappointed.