I recently had an email exchange with someone who was asking my advice on whether or not they should go ahead with a love spell. They had placed a request but where having second thoughts. It’s not an usual thing to happen. The basis for their hesitation was summed up as:“I don’t know if I should go ahead, I don’t think it will work for me. My case is unusual”.
Here’s the thing: everyone thinks their case is unusual. But is that really true?
I hear exactly the same kind of thing, on average, a couple of times a week. People say to me, “Yes but my situation is complicated” or “I’m sure it works for most people, but it won’t work for me”.
You know what? You are certainly unique as a person, and your situation is indeed probably very complicated. But in the grand scheme of things, your situation is exactly like that of literally thousands of other people. Probably even hundreds of thousands. And it’s almost certainly a lot like most the other situations I’m currently working on.
It’s human nature to imagine that we’re somehow different to everyone else. As people, we are individuals. We are born alone, we die alone. But the things that happen to us in between are very common. When I talk to people who want me to cast a spell for them, I hear the same stories over and over again. Certainly the intricate details vary, the insignificant things about dates and times, places, names, and so forth.
The bigger picture stuff though, the overall gist of what was said or done, that’s always the same. Relationship problems really are remarkably similar. You can see as much by reading through some of the love spell stories that people have been generous enough to allow me to share on here. The details differ, but the arcs are roughly the same.
So why is everyone convinced their case is unique? Well as I said, it’s human nature. There are sound psychological reasons, too. For example, when we break up with someone we love, we are deeply hurt. We take it very personally. Even more so if the person who split up with us is now seeing someone else. That new person is apparently a better option for our ex. By logical extension, that means there must be something wrong with us. Hence, we are a special case.
And when a breakup comes out of the blue, we look everywhere for explanations. How can this have happened? Why did it happen now? Why to me? It’s difficult to admit to ourselves that sometimes things just don’t work out. In a strange way, it is comforting to think that there must be a deeper reason for this horrible thing to have occurred. That we are a very special and unusual case, that this must be something more than just a simple breakup.
It’s exactly this same kind of thinking that drives conspiracy theories all over the world. It’s somehow so much more comforting to imagine that Princess Diana was killed by a palace-sponsored hit man in a secret plot than to accept the painful reality that actually, sometimes tragic accidents do happen. Similarly, many people find it preferable to believe that the SARS-CoV-2 novel coronavirus was developed in a secret Chinese laboratory, despite overwhelming evidence to the contrary. Why? Because admitting that terrible life-altering things can just happen is to admit that we have no real control over the world around us.
Conspiracies theories, and believing we are different, are ways of making sense of our chaotic world. They give us a way to suggest to ourselves that some kind of control could be possible.
None of this thinking happens at a conscious level, it’s all going on under the surface just out of reach. And the sad thing is that it sabotages many of our attempts to retrieve the lost relationship.
Everyone is Special, But That Way
The simple fact is that in all the years I’ve been casting love spells (and I’ve been casting professionally for more than forty years), and of all the thousands of couples I’ve helped, I don’t recall every having come across a truly unique case.
About a third of those people I’ve worked with believed that their situation was unique. They were truly convinced that a spell that works for everyone else would fail for them. And yet, when I cast a spell for them, it worked.
So if you’re holding back on requesting a love spell, or on doing anything else to fix your relationship because you think you’re somehow unique — please don’t. Your situation may seem unfixable to you, but take a step back and you might just see that actually thousands of people are going through the exact same thing. Yes it’s painful, it hurts, and it seems impossible. Just as it does for everyone else who in the same boat.